How You Love
People can love selfishly or unselfishly. When people love selfishly,
they love others and they love the things of life based upon personal
benefits they can get from others and things. However, when people love
unselfishly, they love others and the things of life because they count
others and things as blessings. Let us look at real life examples.
Someone who selfishly loves a car because of what the car can do for
them and not what they can do for the car in terms of maintenance, care,
and upkeep can be in for big repair bills. However, someone who loves
their car because they like to work on it, like to keep it serviced,
maintained, and protected is going to get more out of the car and can
usually avoid big repair bills. When we love a person for what we can
get out of him or her, we usually end up disappointed and hurt because
eventually the other person leaves us when they get tired of being used
by us. When we love others unselfishly, we always help them, always love
them, always serve them, and always protect them for unselfish reasons.
When we love others unselfishly, we never expect others to help, love,
serve, and protect us in return. Being unselfish, when we always return
what is given to us by others, our relationship is never one-sided.
One-sided relationships are troubled relationships. Usually, one-sided
selfish relationships easily come apart physically, emotionally, or
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